Female graduates,the world is full of sharks, be humble

It is the graduation season, and as it is the tradition in this column, we always try to give graduates a few tips to start them off in the outside world that is full of sharks. This after living through the secure bubble of parental tutelage and school comfort their entire lives. This year we will focus on female graduates. You are about to embark on a journey beset by untold challenges that as a woman you have to navigate on your own. But firstly, tone down your alcohol consumption, if you hope to get married and have a functional marriage. Ideally, quit and limit yourself to a glass of wine or two from time to time. I am sorry; most men who will marry you are stuck in the Stone Age and a woman who drinks like there is no tomorrow is not good for marriage. So make the right choice. Also other bad habits such as smoking, partying like you are 21 all over again sadly have to be abandoned. Remember time is a very bad servant for women. It is a fact of life. So you have limited time to get a potential suitor, get married, settle down, get babies, get that Masters degree, get your own house. You have to accomplish this in the next ten years. You will rarely manage to accomplish all of them and still look sexy. So learn to prioritise. Just know the older you grow, the more you are likely to be displaced in the marriage market by younger, sexier and more malleable girls. Be careful whom you have unprotected sex with. If you don’t picture him as a cool baby daddy or will make a great father to your kid, don’t. Tell him to rubber it up. I repeat, tell him to rubber it up. Sh*t happens. Condoms often burst. And they now sell fake contraceptives, be extra careful. You don’t want baby daddy drama in your 30s when you want to settle down. GO TO PAGE 1 2 3 Next » Do you have something to add to this story? Comment here. 0 inShare Latest News News anchor rejected by corporate boss News anchor rejected by corporate boss Boyfriend stalks randy politician Boyfriend stalks randy politician 'Mlevi' politician pees on himself in an office 'Mlevi' politician pees on himself in an office One for the road: Drunk senior Kenyan politician pees on himself in broad daylight One for the road: Drunk senior Kenyan politician pees on himself in broad daylight Retired politician shocks home owners by cancelling deal to his properties Retired politician shocks home owners by cancelling deal to his properties Married female politician giving gospel artiste sleepless nights Married female politician giving gospel artiste sleepless nights Next Story » 'Mlevi' politician pees on himself in an office Read More... Comment Policy
Read more at: http://www.sde.co.ke/thenairobian/article/2000174689/female-graduates-the-world-is-full-of-sharks-be-humble

Or scare potential suitors because you have a son who looks like a murderer at the age of three. Be wise. More importantly, shun all the advice your pastor, motivation speaker or TV personality will tell you. Neither should you believe the literature in books such as Lean In by Sheryl Sandberg. Truth is, aim high, don’t settle for jerks but remember you cannot have it all. Nobody does. Male or female, we all compromise in life. As you will struggle to find that work-life balance, just be realistic with your environment (all I am saying, if you are in Nairobi, don’t try to live as if you are in New York). I will also urge, don’t buy your own vibe. Don’t start the usual crap that men are afraid of your success because you earn more — or because you dine with the high and might in the world — since you came up with some SME-solution that is helping women in Africa to do something and it is a big deal. Just don’t buy it. Be humble, by all means. Be ready to compromise without lowering your standards in matters to do with relationships. Just make sure he is supportive, never lays a finger on you and does not live off you. Unless you want it that way. Don’t say that men are afraid of you because of what you drive. My man Oyunga Pala once said that a car is no longer a symbol of prosperity, but a means of moving conveniently in the city. Facts only. Lastly, whatever you do, be careful never to blame anyone for your failures in the event life throws crap at you. Remember crap happens. Death, taxes, bad in-laws, bad spouses are a likelihood or an inevitability at some point and now you must confront them as an adult.
Read more at: http://www.sde.co.ke/thenairobian/article/2000174689/female-graduates-the-world-is-full-of-sharks-be-humble?pageNo=2

Just make sure you always have some money of your own, should you get married and the man takes you for granted just because he pays rent for that three-bedroom house in South C. Love yourself. Value yourself, and you will be fine. @nyanchwani snyanchwani@gmail.com
Read more at: http://www.sde.co.ke/thenairobian/article/2000174689/female-graduates-the-world-is-full-of-sharks-be-humble?pageNo=3